Thanks for sharing your story. Even after that, the Church discourages youth from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage. I have finally realized that the church is fake and I'm so grateful that I got a second chance with this guy. Nor was there a lack of compassion or respect. I felt insane and crazy for being upset and considered just leaving ASAP. I knew a woman who married a man who converted to the church and she spent the rest of their married life telling him he was not good enough.
There are many good things. The Holy Ghost will testify that it is true. He is on call ALL the time, he arrives home 9 pm and barely sit down for diner and then gets called away, then again 2 am heart attack.
I'm blessed that he is well and doing so well in school. I visit him every month, we managed to go on weekend trips when he's off and he's spend all his vacay time with me and his family. He expects gourmet meals and an immaculate house. I have a friend who identifies as bi-gendered and often feels most comfortable in femme. About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church.
Now I don't get offended when he falls asleep when I come over - in fact, he puts his head in my lap and I run my hands through his hair until he falls asleep. Drinkers tend to rely on drink before they can have fun. Unless you have those same understandings, I'm sad to say the relationship is almost certainly doomed. I am often kind of waiting around until the last minute for him to contact me and let me know when he's free or I have to pursue him, which doesn't make me feel like he's very into me. It sounds like you have found a good one. Or, if I'm at work, even though I'm constantly busy, even if I wasn't, I can't just pull my phone out and call--i'm at work. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert. Why Mormons are not sexist.
