Your man is becoming a doctor, and while he's still a resident carving his way into the field, his off days will be few and far between. You should ask yourself if you want to pursue a future partner who was raised in an environment that causes drastic sexual suppression and you may never have a healthy sex life if she is your wife. We talked during the break and saw each other a few times before he moved, but he finally ended things a month into the break telling me "he loves me, but is no longer in love with me" and "doesn't think he can regain the passion. He isn't always around for holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. But I loved this girl more than anything in life. They're very caring in some ways, but lack where it matters most. Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit. I would love to someday find myself sitting in the pew with you, sharing this amazing journey. God brought the two of us together, and we are truly in love.
But, if ever were there were a time to be overly cautious it's with this topic. Having said this, there are several aspects of this particular religion that you need to be aware of as these will greatly affect how she will approach you and the relationship as a whole. I think you should start by having some very honest conversations. Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. By continuing to use our site, you agree to our cookie policy. No easy answers here. These are things your wife may consider matter-of-fact and you may be surprised by if you don't discuss them now. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church. I'm engaged to a junior intern and we're supposed to get married soon. Ask her on dates.
I don't want to advocate manipulation but asking questions concerning Joseph's dishonesty about polygamy to his first wife and his marriage of other men's wives and marriage of a 14 year old may prove more fruitful than just saying wow polygamy is messed up. This lack of inclusion within the general society makes them socially awkward, especially around men. I know my husband appreciates me looking into it because he knows I am doing it to gain an understanding into the culture he was raised in. I can't take it. Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. I guess I want to know if I do decided to start my future with him, should I expect to be constantly cheated on and be okay with it. It won't be easy. One red flag I have for Mormon girls is if they drink coffee. God be with you all.
Anonymous, you are right. He will have to wait outside if his children marry in the temple. This is especially true when you are around others. I don't know why the system allows this type of treatment Not only do the residents feel like they "should" be giving every single bit of their energy, intellect, passion, soul to their residency programs, but they are told by their program directors, attendings and everyone else around them that they "must".
